Be More YOU. Now.
All my life it feels like I have been peeling back layers of illusion, guardedness, and disguise to reveal my true self to myself. Once again, asking the most important and most difficult question, “who am I”. All in the quest to be my more true and honest self.
The world has turned upside down with the COVID-19 pandemic. Some people are tossing it off as an annoyance, not following ‘stay at home’ guidelines complaining about being bored. Some are following the rules and are frightened about losing their job, while most parents have a new appreciation of the critical role teachers have in their children's lives.
Then there are the saviors, my friends the superheroes, who are smack in the middle of this horrific event, the front-line health care workers. Nurses and doctors and others who are seeing this Pandemic through the lenses of scuba goggles, bandanas, homemade masks, and gowns, or if they are lucky, outfitted with the...
THE INVISIBLE ENEMY
“... “May he live in interesting times.” Like it or not, we live in interesting times. They are times of danger and uncertainty, but they are also the most creative of any time in the history of mankind.” In 1966 Robert F. Kennedy delivered a speech that shared those words.
Here we are again, living in “interesting times” of danger and uncertainty. The current enemy does not carry guns or missiles. It does not hate or have religious, political, gender or cultural preferences. This enemy is invisible and is impacting all of humanity and our world.
We are all realizing how connected we are now. We thought we were separate, we thought our country was better than theirs, we thought our culture was more refined than theirs, we thought our economy was better than theirs, we thought we were smarter than them. We are recognizing now, are all in this together, human beings, children of God here on this...
The Year of The NURSE
At last, the World Health Organization (WHO) has designated 2020 as the International Year of The Nurse! - Dr. Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus, WHO Director-General said:
“Nurses and midwives are the backbone of every health system: in 2020 we’re calling on all countries to invest in nurses and midwives as part of their commitment to health for all.”
When was the last time you had a nurse's support or care? Was it when she explained what the doctor had just said to you and your family that you didn't really understand? Was it when she put her arms around you for a hug when you felt alone and uncertain? Was it when she gave you advice about how to care for your loved one in a way that was easier for you or more comforting to them? Was it when she explained the complex procedure that was about to happen to you?
Nurses are everywhere and play a vital role in the workforce. We are care providers in a healthcare environment where it...
Do you know someone who is a caregiver? I’ll bet every one of you either IS (or has been) a caregiver or knows one. Whether you are taking care of a sick child or an elderly parent, a partner or a friend, caregiving is not for the faint of heart. It is a hero’s job.
Heroes are thought of as courageous souls with noble qualities, who stand in the face of danger and that is certainly true. War heroes are immortalized in statues found all across the world. But what of the Caregiver Hero, have you ever seen a statue of her? The Caregiver Hero is someone who quietly day after day, month after month, year after year comforts, cares for, and nurtures a frail or infirmed loved one without accolades or honors, or financial gain and even sometimes at great financial peril to themselves.
Caregivers have tremendous responsibilities, not only are they helping with the basic day to day living activities of feeding, bathing, and dressing...
"I'm Sorry For Your Loss".
How often have you said the words, "I'm sorry for your loss" in hopes of consoling a grieving person? How often have you heard those words, as you faced unimaginable grief? Did hearing "I'm sorry for your loss" comfort you? Did you feel understood and supported?
These days it seems the universal thing to say to someone grieving the death of a loved one are those 5 words. But, when that phrase is used without emotion or real empathy it sounds empty, and awkward, and ignores the real pain that grief bestows on someone. Saying "I'm sorry for your loss" does more to make the person sharing the words feel better than comforting the person who is in need.
When someone has experienced the death of a friend or loved one, be honest, don't ignore their pain, don't be afraid to say you don't know what to say! That revelation is more authentic and appreciated than "I'm sorry for your loss".
I've had two friends die in the past few months...
The 5 Essentials of Great Teams
We’ve all experienced the thrill of being part of an amazing team, if only for a fleeting moment. Trust, collaboration, and that unstoppable feeling - it’s magic. So, how do you design a winning team? Is it more about raw talent or chemistry? How do you scale that design across an organization so productivity soars and your culture thrives?
Last month my niece Tori graduated from Firefighter school. Her accomplishment now marks the 3rd generation of firefighters in the Moore family and we are so proud of her! My dad, my brother and now his daughter all in service to making a positive difference in the lives of others.
Tori's desire to be the best was inspiring. Her self-discipline carried her to the finish line and beyond. But it was her commitment to her classmates’ success and the brotherhood/sisterhood of being a firefighter that captured her heart. The encouragement and support and trust the class had in one another...
Auld Lang Syne
A new year begins, and a new decade is entered. New hopes and dreams are established while the song Auld Lang Syne is sung. This song comes from a 1788 Scots poem by Robert Burns set to the tune of a traditional folk song. Auld lang syne essentially means “for the sake of old times”. It calls for the preservation of our oldest, and dearest friendships and we sing it together to recall past joys and sorrows we have shared. The first line is a question, “Should old acquaintance be forgot, And never brought to mind?”. The answer, of course, is “no!” we should never forget.
I began this new year speaking at the memorial of a dear colleague and friend, Cathy Adkison, President and CEO of Big Bend Hospice in Tallahassee who died in December. We heard about Cathy’s resume virtues, and there were many, the letters after her name, and the titles she amassed in her short time here on earth. However,...
The Secret to Warren Buffet’s Success? It’s Simple…
A man once asked investor Warren Buffet, “I want to be successful, but how do I know where I should put my focus?” Buffet’s answer went something like this (and I’d strongly suggest that you read and follow steps #1 and #2 BEFORE you read #3).
#1. Take a few minutes to sit down and consider, then write down, your top 25 goals for both your life and career. These can be personal or professional.
#2 Go through that list carefully, then choose your top 5.
#3 Clear on those top 5? Good. Now, avoid at all costs number 6-25, and concentrate all your efforts on the top 5. That was Buffet’s advice; that success is achieved through focusing only on those things that matter most and letting the rest go.
I’m thinking about goals today because we’re at the start of a new decade, and that’s a great opportunity to consider seriously what it is I want to bring forth in my life...
What Is The Tilt of Your Axis?
It’s December 21, Winter Solstice in the northern hemisphere, and today is the darkest day of the year. This is the day when the sun stays in bed with the covers pulled up, peeking out only for a short stretch. In the Arctic Circle on this day the sun does not come out at all.
The Solstice all about the tilt, the tilt of our Earth’s axis in relationship to our elegant dance around the sun. It’s about a change in the orientation and angles between the Earth and the Sun. The slightest of shift determines if we receive or deflect the Light.
As we in the US navigate during the major holiday season from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day with Hanukah and Christmas beaming brightly, it is our tilt that determines whether we adore or dread this time of year. Our tilt can result in welcoming the joyous celebrations of religion and culture to buoy us up. Our tilt can also make us cranky wanting only to utter...
Slaying the Dragon of Perfectionism
For some of us, the holidays are a chance to reconnect around a table full of friends and family, For those saddled with perfectionism, though, holidays like Thanksgiving are a chance to go full-on Martha Stewart. The turkey has to come to the table, looking like a crew of stylists dressed it up for a photoshoot. And the table? If everyone there doesn’t have a handwritten place card and menu in front of them, big points off. Ditto an artfully arranged centerpiece, beautiful linens, and dazzling flatware. Who cares if the chef is ready to drop by the time the pies get to the table, as long they’re bedecked with wreaths of perfectly-browned pastry leaves?
So much of my professional time is spent helping leaders who bring this kind of impossible standard to work with them, every day. They’re typically stressed, fatigued, and constitutionally resistant to delegating – of letting go. And I’m good at helping them...